Today My confession is that I am not a good listener.
which make me weak in carrying out a conversation.
Here in Thailand, I find it very difficult to carry a conversation with anyone.
Here I was thinking, that might be because of the language barrier. People are weak in English and it's hard to talk, but at this point, I come to realized that, it's not the case.
I was listening to a ted talk by Celeste Headlee. (She has worked in public radio since 1999) She was talking about How to have a good conversation . She pointed out 10 things. They are:
1- Be present - I always do something else, when I listen to someone. I know I can multi-task if I Had to listen without doing anything. That is like killing myself.
2- Don't be a negative person ( I forgot the exact word)
3- Use open-ended questions.
4- Go with the flow.
5- If you don't know say you don't know
6- Don't equate your experience with them it's not the same ( I always do this)
7- Don't repeat what you say ( I always do this )
8- Forget about the details when you talk ( name, years , etc ) (I try to remember them and I end up saying nothing cause I don't remember them.)
9- Listen - carefully listening , don't make you mind go wondering around. ( I am lack of this ability)
10- Be brief.
My listening power is my everything, I would rather listen to book review to avoid reading. but I am not a good listener for people stories and conversation.
Here after I will improve my listening skill to improve conversation. I think I am gonna love it. :)
